I want you to embrace this article for what it is.
I want you to be able to take what I tell you as the truth.
Do not take it with a grain of salt.
I want you to listen and listen closely.
Rejection is good and it is not only good but it is needed for success in all aspects of your life.
Throughout our life we dodge what we call rejection. If we go for a job interview, have a relationship with another, cold approach a woman, start a new business, or whatever it may be, we do not want to be rejected.
Rejection– excuse as inadequate, inappropriate or not to someone’s taste.
Even the definition is a splash of negativity that makes us not want to have that utter feeling of rejection.
We grow up wanting to fit in, wanting to get along with everyone and excepted by all, but why?
Was it our up bringing?
Is it social conditioning that makes it hard to deal with rejection?
Are we as humans not able to except not being liked that fuels us to feel emotional over rejection?
It can be a number of things but I am not here to tell you why you feel how you feel. I am just here to open your mind a bit and look at something that you may not have seen before.
Rejection creates obsession but why should it?
Let’s take a look at it in a different way or try to at least.
Rejection is good, actually it can be the best thing that happens to you.
Rejection in your career
Let’s look at this scenario.
Let’s call this person Billy.
Billy comes out of college and he wants to find a job in the field of his choosing. He prepared himself for interviews and he wanted to land his dream job. He goes on a number of interviews and he doesn’t get a call back. He gets angry because of the rejection from potential employers. He continues to go on interviews but he is butt hurt and it is written all over his face. Billy ends getting a job but it is not to his liking.
Now what’s wrong with this.
He took rejection as a negative.
Why didn’t this person look at the rejection from the interviews as the company wasn’t right for him?
Why didn’t he see if he was doing something wrong in the interview process?
Why didn’t he see the failed job attempts as another step closer to the right place for him to work?
Why didn’t he look at his new job as a stepping stone to a better position later on in his career?
If he looked at rejection as a good thing, and as an incompatibility, he would be a happier person.
Let’s look at approaching women or even a long term relationship
If you get rejected by a woman it is just an incompatibility at the moment.
The person is not alined to be your partner.
Do you really want someone who doesn’t want you?
I understand that sometimes it takes some type of effort to get a woman interested but do you want to put in work for someone who doesn’t see your great qualities?
You should be putting work into yourself not another.
As long as you are congruent and a centered man you should embrace any rejection from a woman as an incompatibility.
Even if you are involved in a long term relationship with a girl, if she decides she wants to step away, she no longer wants to be with you for the moment.
Do you want to be with someone who doesn’t see your good qualities and doesn’t see what you bring to the table?
When something is out of our control we need to understand that there is nothing you can do about it.
I teach the effortless alpha lifestyle for a reason.
Your life should as simple as possible and the rejection from another is just an opportunity for growth.
Every relationship is an opportunity for growth.
You will have many relationships in your life and rejection is usually the best thing that could happen to you.
As long as you learn and grow you are living your life in a positive way.
If you done something wrong it is opportunity to learn from your mistakes.
The famous phase: What is meant to be will be
It is true to an extent.
Rejection is growth, it is learning, it is weeding out those things that is not right for you.
You should love rejection actually.
You should be glad that you get rejected in the things you want in your life.
Sometimes it’s not the right time for you to receive them.
When you look back on your life you will notice that everything was meant to happen and some of your harshest rejections was a big positive aspect in your life.
Have freedom of outcome.
Try your best and be the best you can be at what you want.
Have control of your emotions and sometimes it is not all about you.
Be congruent and a centered man, that is on his mission in life.
Nothing can stop you.
Rejection is good and learn to actually want it in your life.