Dating & Relationships

Advice on how to approach women in NYC


New York, New York. Beautiful place full of beautiful women. There is no place like New York. In the 5 boroughs there is so much to do and see.

I been a New Yorker all my life and I seen it all. Approaching and picking up women can be easy, that’s if you know what to do and what not to do to get the results you want.

In my travels I come to learn that the rest of America seems more friendly. If I go to PA, CA, TX, FL, VA, etc, I would get more smiles and hellos from strangers. In New York everyone seems to be in a rush to get somewhere but this shouldn’t be an excuse to not be successful with women here.

If you rely on clubs and bars to approach women you will succeed, although you may get tiresome of the scene. Depending on where you are in your life, you get what you put in. You don’t want to rely on the nightlife to meet women. I go out to clubs and lounges to have fun with friends.

You should not be worrying or have a mission to meet women at these places, they should come to you.

Being confident and centered on who you are as a man creates a magnet for women.

They will spot you as you walk in the room and be drawn to you.

Bars are great to talk to women but you must be able to approach them correctly to succeed. If you want to just have a great night with a girl, meet someone for a relationship, or take home a woman for a great night of sex, it is all the same recipe.

You must approach and be yourself.

With Pick up lines, it may get you at the door but it won’t get you far if you are not yourself. The way you stand, talk and act is very important.

It is very simple, but the most important tool is to smile.

Talk to a woman while looking in her eyes.

You can find out so much about a woman when looking into her eyes.

I am getting off track so let me get to specifics.


Random advice that you should follow to be successful with meeting women.

Do not buy a woman a drink till she earns it

Preparation is key to success

Get to the point with women, say what you feel and don’t hold back.

Talk to everyone and every girl, not just to the girl you want.

You need to warm up and if you just wait to talk to the hot girl you want, that’s when you will fail.

Ask for her name but don’t offer yours. See if she asks for your name in return. You want her to be attracted to you.

Read her level of interest. You need to develop an attraction meter and see if you are wasting your time.

If she is not attracted to you it is an uphill battle and you will lose. There are so many hot single women in the New York. Don’t waste your time with one that is not fully interested.

Let her come and go as she pleases.

Don’t get hung up on one woman at a club, lounge, bar etc.

Smile and look her in the eyes and be confident.

She deserves a chance with you not the other way around.

Stand up for yourself and don’t let her take you off your center as a man.

She will throw out tests if the conversation continues.

Never argue or show anger.

Do not stay longer if you don’t feel welcomed.

If you get her number don’t let her see you getting other girls numbers. She wants to feel special.

Try to incorporate touching in the conversation. High fives, touching of the arm, etc. but make sure it is ok to do so. You must test it out and see if it is ok with the woman you are pursuing. Touching creates bigger attraction if there was attraction there to begin with. If she is touching back that is a good sign.

Don’t be a yes man and agree with everything she says. If your favorite color is blue don’t switch your view cause her favorite color is red.

Be direct and make a move. Hesitation shows weakness.

Opportunities will pass you by if you get all in your head and think too much.

No mental gymnastics. Don’t think of what you will say, just go up to a woman you find attractive and be normal.

Make the approach ASAP. Once you starting thinking before you do, that’s when you lose.

You have no competition. You can not get bothered by other guys hitting on women. Most guys have no clue what they are doing. If you are confident and have an abundance mentality they will come back if they roam.

Ask questions. The girl should be doing 65% of the talking. You must remain a mystery and at the same time be funny and charming.

Not every girl will like you. Once you find out she doesn’t you should leave. You can build attraction but if it is blatant that she is not interested don’t act mad, but be a man and say goodbye.

Never burn bridges. That girl you thought wasnt interested may come back. Walking away and being indifferent creates attraction so don’t be surprised if you run into her and she seems flirtatious.

When asking questions follow up with an emotion based question about that answer. For example, “Where did you grow up?” I am originally from Florida but moved to New York when I was 18. “Oh really, that is a big move to make at the age how did it that make you feel?”
Get them to share their emotions but try to keep it positive if it gets negative.

Always put a positive spin on any question she has for you. Keep it playful and funny.

You are the prize. She deserves a shot with you. Not the other way around.

It’s a numbers game. Rejection is inevitable. Get through the no’s to get the yeses.

These are some tips on how to approach and talk to woman. It is very broad but you can take what you want from the advice I give and use it to get the women of your dreams. A lot of this pertains to night life but then again you can use this advice to meet and talk to woman during the day.

You can meet women any where.

When you start carrying yourself with confidence and have a take it or leave it attitude, women will just show up in your orbit.



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